FORGET EVERYTHING you’ve been told about “healthy” relationships. A so-called relationship expert is now EXPOSING the DANGEROUS lie that conflict is good for your marriage, revealing a chilling psychological manipulation tactic being sold to couples as “emotional intelligence.”
1. THE “INTENT” TRAP: How Therapists Train You To IGNORE Your Gut
They tell you NOT to assume the worst about your partner’s intent. But what if your gut is RIGHT? This “negative attribution bias” scam forces you to dismiss legitimate red flags. Your partner’s cruel comment wasn’t cruel—YOU just “misinterpreted” it. This psychological reframing is a GASLIGHTING MANUAL, teaching you to question your own reality and accept unacceptable behavior under the guise of “connection.”
2. EMOTIONAL PONZI SCHEME: You’re Now Responsible For YOUR Partner’s Outbursts
The most SHOCKING directive? You must “co-regulate” your partner’s toxic emotions. Their rage, their silence, their frustration—YOU are now tasked with calming THEM. This isn’t intimacy; it’s emotional servitude. The “clean pause” is a controlled detonation, training you to walk on eggshells and manage their instability while being told it’s “taking responsibility.” This creates perfect victims for narcissists and abusers.
3. CURIOSITY KILLED THE MARRIAGE: The Fatal Flaw in “Never Assuming”
The final, most insidious rule: stay “curious” during major conflicts. When trust is shattered, they demand you become an “investigator” of your partner’s inner world. This forces endless, exhausting analysis instead of holding them accountable. It pathologizes healthy boundaries as “competing narratives.” After decades, you’re told you don’t know your partner at all—a convenient theory that keeps you trapped in a cycle of therapeutic interrogation, forever doubting your own perceptions.
This isn’t science; it’s a CULTURAL CONDITIONING program designed to create compliant, conflict-averse partners who prioritize “harmony” over truth. The entire multi-billion dollar therapy industry is banking on you believing that the problem isn’t your partner’s behavior—it’s your reaction to it. They are systematically dismantling your instinct to protect yourself. The question is no longer how to save your relationship, but why you’re being trained to tolerate what should be intolerable.
Author: Kayitsi.com
