And let’s be honest: most people would have lost their patience long before this point. The original poster gave this person a cheap place to live when she needed one. She overlooked late rent. She helped her through difficult periods of her life. Even after being accused, she responded with information that might actually help her recover the money from the bank. That’s a level of patience I personally do not possess.
What I find sad is how common this kind of friendship is. One person is constantly extending grace while the other person keeps taking. Then the moment something goes wrong, all those years of support suddenly disappear from memory. It’s almost like kindness creates a weird illusion. The more understanding you are, the more some people assume you’ll continue being understanding forever. At a certain point, though, you stop asking whether you’re a good friend and start asking whether the friendship is actually good for you. Because friendship isn’t supposed to feel like customer service. If someone can accept your help for years, owe you money, move on with their life, and then circle back to accuse you of stealing because their bank gave them an answer they didn’t like, the friendship probably wasn’t ruined by $100. It was ruined by a complete lack of trust.
Author: Kayitsi.com
