How far ahead is it possible for us to plan and prepare?
Planning has a limit, in every aspect of life. A woman shared on r/TwoHotTakes that she had an unexpected turn of events that complicated things. She lives in a foreign country with her husband, and a college friend was scheduled to visit and stay with them, along with her own husband and three-year-old child. That way they could save some money on accommodation and food. Unfortunately, one of the homeowners, the husband, got unexpectedly very sick and was very contagious. His wife called her friend to let her know and to tell her it was dangerous for them to stay in the house. She even tried to ask some friends if they could stay with them, but no such luck. So far, it seems like she did everything she could, but the friend might not think the same. The woman said her friend pretty much ghosted her for two days after that and seems to be giving her the cold shoulder for ruining her plans.
Truth is, no one can predict getting sick; otherwise, emergencies wouldn’t exist. And if it was something contagious, as she said, it was in the other couple’s best interest and that of their child not to stay in a place where they could catch the same sickness. They have a three-year-old they need to protect. Getting offended over someone being sick and supposedly “ruining your plans” is a very immature reaction, especially when the safety of the kid could be at stake.
On other notes, traveling is beautiful, and you’re really lucky if you have friends who can provide accommodation free of charge. However, even if you have them, it is not their obligation to let you stay with them in their own house. Traveling is a luxury, and no matter how generous your loved ones might be, no one should show up on someone else’s doorstep expecting to be let in for free. Everybody should calculate the expenses beforehand and determine whether they can afford it on their own or not. A friend’s generosity is circumstantial, not something we should depend on for treating ourselves to expensive experiences.
Author: Kayitsi.com
