The fact that he takes the girl teasing him for not being able to go out on girls’ night so personally is such a red flag for me. I know this is all affected by the fact that he is only seventeen, but I can’t unsee it. It’s the classical victim maneuver; he feels attacked and insecure by something tiny and playful and makes it everyone else’s problem. I can see that he doesn’t have the capacity or the maturity to see it yet, but that would definitely be the point I would fixate on.
If he could step out of his insecurities for a bit and see that there is nothing negative that can come out of his girlfriend going out with her friends, he would understand that his ego is not the most important thing in order to keep the relationship alive. It’s normal to get caught up in those things, though, and once we realize, it’s typically too late, and that’s how we learn from our mistakes.
Author: Kayitsi.com
