More and more people are going low or no contact with their own parents because the parents simply cannot act right, and this MIL is a great example.
A lot of people these days have been cutting off their parents, and some have posited that it’s because we’re all too connected. In the past, if your mom annoyed you, you could just let all her calls go to voicemail for a while, and if she showed up knocking at your house, you could pretend that you weren’t home until she left. This would give both of you time to cool off and think about how to mend things. But these days, parents talk to their kids constantly through texting and social media, and a lot of them have their children’s locations, too. This makes it all but impossible to ignore a parent who’s been behaving in an unkind way. And oftentimes, the parent will push their child too far, making them make the painful choice to limit their contact.
This person’s MIL is a great example of the selfishness that some parents bring to the table, as you can read for yourself in the utterly insane pity-party post she wrote for her son’s birthday. As one commenter noted, in a birthday post to someone else, she used the words “myself” and “I” more than a dozen times! She wants everyone to know that she’s the innocent party here, and her big mean old son is the one who’s “hurting” her and her husband. If she actually had respect for her child, she would never write this humiliating message for the world to see. It’s crystal clear that she thinks she’s 100% in the right — so much so that it’s all she can think about, even on her son’s birthday. It’s telling that she writes about how he requested to go no-contact 6 months ago due to things being said that couldn’t be unsaid. But it’s as if she hasn’t taken a single second to reflect on her own actions, because she refuses to acknowledge that most of these parent-child conflicts are caused by both parties, to some extent. It’s really pathetic, and if she ever sees the post and reads the comments, maybe she’ll gain a much-needed reality check. In the meantime, though, I hope this person and the husband demand that the MIL take this post down, before blocking her so they don’t have to see this kind of drivel ever again.
