23-year-old discovers her parents secretly gave her college fund to her sister’s business, leaving her with $60,000 in student loans, then gets asked to be a bridesmaid at her wedding: ‘They all lied to me for years’ – FAIL Blog

Can a family betrayal be forgotten just because years have passed?

A recent college graduate was left with more than $60,000 in student loan debt after her parents secretly gave most of her college fund to her sister’s business years earlier. After discovering the truth and receiving no apology from her sister, she refused to attend her wedding.

When it comes to family disputes, there’re no right or wrong answers on how to respond or forgive. Because of the deep connection to relatives, and especially siblings, these wounds take longer to heal, and it’s more than obvious that someone would still be angry for something that happened years ago. 

I think the part that must be hurting the OP so much is the fact that everyone lied to her: her parents and her sister. They didn’t let her know she could count on her college fund because they helped her sister; instead, they lied to her and told her that the money was gone due to some bad investments. And since things like this can happen to anyone, the OP did nothing about it.

She still went to college, and after graduating, she’s facing a debt of $60,000 because her parents did not let her know in advance how to solve things. And the worst part is that her sister wants her to be her bridesmaid, as if nothing happened. I’d be as mad as the OP is.

Her parents, the one that her sister her college fund, are blaming her for wanting to ruin the wedding, and they are making her feel even worse for not forgiving and letting things go. And the only thing that the OP is demanding is an apology from her sister, who knew all this time where the money from her business came from, and never said a word. Is that too much to ask?