The expectation that employees announce their job search in advance is one of those rules bosses invent on the spot, like a ref making up a foul because their team’s losing. Companies don’t send a courtesy heads up before a layoff. Nobody gets a calendar invite titled “your position no longer exists, thoughts?” three weeks early. So the idea that loyalty flows one direction while risk flows the other is just how the game’s rigged.
Then there’s the manager who turns someone else’s exit into their own personal disaster movie. “Now I’m screwed” isn’t your problem to fix, that’s her staffing puzzle, and puzzles aren’t supposed to be solved by the piece that’s leaving the box. Expecting a coworker to basically hold the department together through her maternity leave, all while that coworker’s still waiting on a raise from January, is like asking someone to paint your fence while they’re still arguing with you about being paid for the last job.


