Bride expects her BFF and her husband to cancel a prepaid San Diego birthday trip and pay for childcare after rescheduling her 3-day wedding with less than 6 days’ notice and uninviting their baby: ‘If they were truly friends…’ – FAIL Blog

It’s not the first time a bride believes she is the center of the universe just because she is getting married. Having a wedding doesn’t mean your friends will accommodate your wishes no matter the cost, and that doesn’t make your friends any less “true friends”.

Try to picture yourself: a friend invites you to her 3-day wedding, you RSVP yes, and a few days before the wedding, she changes the dates. You can’t make it to the new wedding dates because you already paid for a trip to San Diego for your birthday, your favorite place to visit. And what’s more, your friend suddenly uninvites your baby, so you also need to pay for childcare if you were to attend. Cancelling your birthday trip and paying for childcare to accommodate your friend’s last-minute change of plans for her wedding is not that easy. No real friend would expect that from you, actually. 

In this story, the bride expected her friends to do such a thing. The bride had sent invitations three months earlier, giving the couple enough time to organize their schedule. The original plan allowed them to bring their baby, and the celebration ended immediately before the wife’s birthday. Therefore, the friend’s husband booked a four-day San Diego trip afterward to celebrate the friend’s birthday. Everything had been arranged around the dates provided by the bride. It’s not their fault that she changed the plans with such short notice. Maybe it wasn’t the bride’s fault either, but she should consider that guests are allowed to say they can’t make it to the new dates. 

Naturally, the couple declined the new invitation, but the bride showed anything but understanding or consideration. Instead of acknowledging the impossible position she had created, the bride questioned the friendship. She argued that a genuine best friend should adjust the vacation and personally pay for childcare. Friendship isn’t measured by how much money someone is willing to lose or whether your friend is willing to sacrifice her birthday plans and accept that her baby is not invited to your wedding. In fact, it’s pretty selfish to expect something like that from a friend.