Now, back to what we were wondering: Why would somebody do something like that? I think for some people, a child your partner had with someone else might be unconsciously perceived as a threat, or at least as living proof your partner had a life before you and with it a family project; all that can spark feelings of deep jealousy. What’s interesting in the story is that the stepmom’s behaviour isn’t overtly violent. It’s small, covert, and deniable. It appears to be pointed directly at the stepson’s sense of being at home. A bit like saying: ‘You are not secure here, your safety can be disrupted at any moment’, although it clearly isn’t a healthy way of communicating anything and the message is twisted in itself. If she were really in tune with her feelings and an assertive person overall, she would try to talk to everyone and state what she feels uncomfortable with, and where she wants to arrive with the family in the future.
Author: Kayitsi.com
