Man wonders whether people are putting less effort into maintaining friendships, or whether people don’t want to be around him: ‘They always say “we need to hang more”/“we need to do this again soon!” and then they never reach out to set something up’ – FAIL Blog

What I think is happening here is maybe this person is looking for friendship in the wrong places. When we are lonely, there’s barely any place to start, so we start with what we know, and what we know might be some random acquaintance who has no interest, not because we’re unbearable, but because we’re incompatible. So naturally, that leads us to frustration and ‘wrong’ ideas about the state of the world and people’s opinions on friendship. I’m not saying his theory might be right; people might have changed their attitudes around friendship thanks to social media, AI, and a long list of other things, but we don’t know that. What I do know is that many people still have a lot of friends these days (or at least a few), so I would only suggest a change in his approach.