You don’t have ownership over something that you gifted away.
When you decide to part ways with something you own, and you gift it or donate it, you lose the ownership of the thing, as ownership is tied to having it. This overly complicated sentence is my way of trying to make the story below less dumb. Because let’s face it, it’s bananas to expect someone to return something you gifted them just because, after 4 years, you want it back. I think that part of the story is quite obvious. You gifted it, is not yours anymore, easy to comprehend. But there’s something under this story that I can’t stop thinking about. The fact that the sister dared to ask something so dumb.
Because of how this story is written, I have reason to believe that the previous owner of the chair usually gets her way about the things she wants. In every family, there’s always one person who makes everyone else do as they say. But what’s interesting about that is the fact that kind of power is not something they just claim, is something given by other family members.
When you were a kid, didn’t you have a cousin or sibling who everyone said yes to just to avoid them throwing a tantrum? Well, have you ever thought what kind of adult someone who was raised like that would be? Not a functioning one, I tell you that. Most of the entitled people we encounter in our adult life are just children who didn’t know the word NO. They always got their way and were never actually disciplined, which led to becoming an adult that still expects everyone to do as they say.
The fact that the sister asked for her chair back is a problem, but not because of the chair, but because she expected to get it back just because she wanted it. That is entitlement and lack of discipline. So, if you are a parent who always favors your child with what they want just to avoid a bad situation, don’t! Your child needs to learn. By giving up, you are just teaching them that they are the only people that matter, and that is completely untrue.
Author: Kayitsi.com
