Relationships can be complicated, but sometimes they just don’t work. We need to learn how to notice when the couple is not working.
With all kinds of relationships, we have this problem of wanting to justify the person who is not contributing to the relationship by making excuses because we are afraid to admit that something is not working, to admit that we are wrong about someone. It’s actually brave to notice when something isn’t working and point it out. Is important to be capable of explaining yourself when you are uncomfortable with something. Nobody is going to do it for you. You have to be able to speak your mind and say what is on your mind. It is unhealthy to keep everything to yourself without expressing it.
In this Reddit story, this user is facing an obvious situation, but she is so concentrated on the relationship and trying to preserve it that she isn’t seeing the bigger picture. Her boyfriend doesn’t want her to see his house, even though they live really near. When she confronts him, they agree to wait 3 weeks for him to show him his house. This is not only insanely weird but also problematic. Why would someone need 3 whole weeks to show you their house? According to him is because it is untidy, but it would need to be a hoarder situation to need 3 weeks to clean an apartment. The reality of this situation is that most probably he has another girlfriend and probably lives with her.
What is important about this situation is not the reason why he is hiding in his apartment. The important thing is that the girl is not seeing the full picture at all. She does not see –or ignores– the big red flag flagging in her face. Start noticing patterns and warning signs before you commit to a serious relationship.
Author: Kayitsi.com
