The part that really does it is the timing. She did not disappear during some minor inconvenience. She disappeared during a public holiday when her coworker had no voice and needed backup on a task that was supposed to be shared. And then she had the extra audacity to claim she was out of town while her location said otherwise. That is not being unavailable. That is being available enough to lie about it.
So now it is Wednesday and suddenly the tables have turned and the door slamming has begun. That is always the tell. People who treat help like a resource they can borrow without returning never seem to understand why the bank eventually closes. The coworker did not get stonewalled. She got a clear explanation of what steps to take and a genuine heads up that there were deadlines. That is more than she offered when the situation was reversed. Arguably it is way more.
The thing about people who have a pattern of being subtly unsupportive is that they rely on the other person never adding it all up. Every individual moment seems small enough to brush off. But they accumulate. And once you do the math on someone, it is very hard to go back to pretending the numbers do not exist.
Nobody owes endless patience to someone who made their priorities crystal clear the moment those priorities stopped including you.
Author: Kayitsi.com
