Having a boyfriend you don’t see for two years is all very weird to me; it’s more like having a pen-pal. You can totally develop feelings for someone you don’t see and sustain them if you’re present enough, but at some point, the body keeps the score lol. Long-distance relationships have to be one of the most heart-wrenching variations of relationships. I did it, don’t recommend it. Maybe one has to go through that horror to learn not to go through it ever again. Well, I’m speaking from my experience again, it probably works if you don’t like your personal space to be invaded like EVER.
Anyway, back to the topic, what struck me the most is how much their families are involved in their decision-making around love, and I think that might have to do with their culture, and that’s ok, but it definitely led me to think how much of our experience of love and relationships is dictated by cultural mandates. I know this is a basic idea, but I even went so far as questioning whether we as humans would still create mandates around relationships if all we had now were erased from our consciousness somehow. I think the answer to that question relies on the fact that all ancient cultures had an idea of romantic love and rituals attached to it, even though they were all different.
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