The term unrequited friendship cracks me up. Sorry to take this so lightly, but I just came up with it. The other day, I received a long biblical text from an old friend of mine, saying that when I visit his city, I never call him, and he feels left out. The coldest, most logical answer to that was that I have many other friends who are more important in my life now, not because I’m doing a ranking, but because circumstances have brought us together, and that has pushed this friend way below on the list. I didn’t have the guts to say that because it’s very tough, and also because I appreciate him; I’ve known him since forever, so I tried making it up to him, and it didn’t work, just like it doesn’t work when two people don’t like each other equally in romantic relationships; life just points it out.
What I’m trying to express here is that I’ve been on the receiving end of this, and I know it’s hard, but I really do believe that ‘rejection is god’s protection’ is true. When we feel someone is not vibing with us, we should try at least once to get the spark back, and if it doesn’t work, we should take it at face value. It isn’t anybody’s fault, and it’s not about anyone being better than the other; it’s just that the connection, at the moment, isn’t reciprocal. Begging or forcing things is not going to take us anywhere good.
Author: Kayitsi.com
