I’ve come to realize that the trite phrase “This too shall pass” exists for a reason, and that reason is that it is a universal truth. When we’re grieving, angry, or sad, we tend to eternize the feeling. We cling to our position in the narrative, thinking that’s how we are going to feel about it forever, and in the moment, it feels very true. I’ve had a two-year separation with a friend that seemed eternal, and it wasn’t. I wasn’t thinking about him all the time in the two years we were apart; I just randomly remembered stuff, and occasionally reflected on our relationship. After two years had passed, something made me think of him one day, and I realized a process had been cooking on its own inside of me. I understood I got angry at him in the first place because he said something true, which hurt my ego, and later, talking to him, he told me he realized he made that remark because something about me hurt his ego too. It was just that, some random thing that triggered both of us. It might seem strange, but I was happy we didn’t discuss it right away; some things take time and life experience for both parties to understand them.
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