Why would someone find any of these signs of a bad neighbor? And why shouldn’t they say anything in 10 years?
Holding a grudge can be acceptable in some cases, but not when it is about your supposed-to-be friend and neighbor of 10 years. I don’t really get what the real problem is with some people expressing their emotions, especially if they are mad at someone. If you have a friend and they did something kind of bad, I get why someone would be doubtful about bringing it out, in can cause the friendship to end, problems in a bigger friend group, or start unnecessary drama about something insignificant. But if you’re really, really mad at your friend to the point that you want the friendship to fully end, why not say something? There is actually no reason to keep that to yourself, as the worst-case scenario has already happened. The friendship is over. Why would you not say something? And especially, why would you wait 10 years?
Another thing that I don’t get about this Reddit story is the blocking. I never understood why some people find it easier to block someone from communication with you rather than simply saying, “I don’t want to be your friend anymore”. With the blocking, you are just creating an uncomfortable atmosphere that is functioning as a way to slow down an inevitable thing. The fact that you don’t communicate that the friendship is over does not mean that you won’t have to do it ever. With the blocking, you are advising the other person that something is wrong or weird, but they are going to eventually confront you about that, not just pretend that a friendship didn’t exist at all.
Sometimes we should just rip the band-aid off. Tell the truth, be free, be honest. There is no reason to pretend that something that is over is still there. Just be courageous enough to admit your feelings and stop with the weirdness and doubt. Be forward.
Author: Kayitsi.com
