The years of living below your means, skipping things, saving carefully, stretching yourself to make a second purchase work, none of that is visible to the person making the ask. What they see is two flats and an opportunity. The sacrifice that created those flats is conveniently invisible because acknowledging it would make the request harder to justify.
The lording it over him accusation is particularly rich. Owning property you worked for is not lording anything over anyone. It is just the outcome of different choices made over a long period of time. His choices were also fine. Holidays and takeaways and living for the moment are legitimate ways to spend a salary. They just do not tend to result in a spare flat being available when things go sideways.
The mother nudging gently in the background is a load-bearing detail. Just let him stay for a bit is always how these things start and never how they end. A bit has no end date, no exit plan, and no mechanism for becoming something more formal before anyone is ready to have that conversation.
The deposit offer was genuinely generous. It acknowledges the situation without dismantling a financial plan that took years to build. The fact that it landed badly says more about the ask than about the answer.
Nobody gets to spend your savings on your behalf and call it family loyalty
Author: Kayitsi.com
