Invisible labor: what you do but nobody seems to notice.
In every family, there is always someone who does everything for everyone without expecting anything in return. The one that plans and hosts everyone’s birthday, the one that always stays after a gathering helping you clean, the one that never forgets a special day. This may seem like simple things that don’t need some major effort to be done, but the fact that there is only one person who cares enough to do it explains everything. Nobody does it, nobody cares, nobody even notices. Is invisible labor. And what makes it worse is the expectations that come with it. You can’t ever stop doing it because it causes fights, and everyone starts treating you badly because you ruined it, when in reality, you didn’t ruin everything. Everyone else did by not cooperating.
This shows the entitlement these people have. They expect everything to be perfect, as if you were some kind of servant that HAS to do everything for them. While they don’t even offer to stay after a little gathering that you hosted to help you clean out. This not only shows how ungrateful they are, but also how much you do, how much labor that becomes visible only when you stop doing it. And if someone else starts doing it, then now they are praised for it for taking the initiative when you ruined everything.
This Reddit story is just another example of inconsiderate family members who prioritize themselves and nothing else. People who act as if you owe them something, as if your job was to do twice what they do, without expecting a thank you or even complaining. It’s not your job. Don’t offer to do everything, because if not, someday you will already be stuck with so many tasks and nobody is going to even tilt an eye to ask if you need help. You cannot get this burden because it condemns you to a life of pleasing people just because you are afraid to speak up for yourself. Do what you want, and the rest is for somebody else to figure out.
Author: Kayitsi.com
