One of the marks of adulthood is coming to terms with the fact that our parents’ conflicts do not automatically become ours. And because the father demands loyalty from his son, we can conclude that he sees him as an extension of himself. Sadly, this entanglement has to be untangled at some point, and it’s in the hands of the family’s youngest one.
Historically, inheritances are often loaded with fantasies about love, recognition, and belonging. The father might not be fighting about the house at all, but about the disappointment he feels when he thinks the grandfather values the grandson more than he valued him when he denied him the house before.


