Grandson caregiver paying $2k per month to help his Grandpa overhears conversation, then refuses to assist him any more: ‘I didn’t make a scene. I just told my Aunt that since the apartment was now hers, the responsibility should be hers too’ – FAIL Blog

Let’s get into the story: this caregiver needs advice. 

My grandfather had a stroke almost two years ago. After he got out of the hospital, he couldn’t really manage on his own anymore. He wasn’t bedridden, but his memory was failing, his b;ood pressure was constantly fluctuating,and sometimes he’d leave the gas on or call me in the middle of the night because he thought someone was walking around the apartment.

I live nearby, about a 20 minute drive, so everything gradually fell on me. Doctors, medications, paperwork, trips, groceries. When things got tougher, I found a caregiver for a couple of days a week. His pension covered part of the expenses, but a decent caregiver and post-stroke medications were very expensive, so I was constantly chipping in my own money. Sometimes 1000 to 2000 a month would just disappear.

It’s true: caregivers can cost a fortune. In an instant, families can find themselves overwhelmed by not only the bills, but just the sheer amount of time needed to care for an ailing family member. If you have to help your elderly family member move from room to room, use the restroom, feed them, clothe them, remember to give them their meds, and so on, that alone can take all day. Your own needs get pushed to the side, leaving people quickly overwhelmed and panicking. 

This person has been through that cycle, and worst of all, their family weren’t even pitching in to help. In fact, the way that some of them act sounds totally infuriating.