The infamous dating pool
If dating is hard, I can’t imagine how hard finding a husband is. I tend to think these sorts of problems arise from the approach we’re taking to dating and not from the dating pool itself. She says some interesting things about her and her relationship with the internet; she says she loves video games, Reddit, CDs. To me, that sounds like a very interesting person; I get the feeling she is looking for dates in the wrong places. I always say this to one of my single friends who’s always actively looking for dates (don’t get me wrong, I’m also single myself, I’m just not looking for dates right now). She gets very frustrated when THE ACCOUNTANT SHE MET ON TINDER doesn’t understand her interest in Dostoyevsky, and I’m like: He’s an accountant from Tinder. What I mean is this: I tend to believe you shouldn’t look for love or dates. I believe you should look for activities that you love, and you will eventually meet people to love there. To me, this is as clear as it gets. Finding love on Tinder is like finding love backwards. You have a free position in your life, and somebody comes to fill it, and you pick from an array of characteristics. That’s just not how love works; in love, you meet somebody you like first, and only afterwards you make a space for them in your life; that’s it. At least that’s how I think about it: you go at it from a place of lack, or you go at it from a place of genuine desire. I understand different people have different social skills and backgrounds, though, but that would still be my advice to her if she were my friend…
Author: Kayitsi.com
