Charging your daughter’s boyfriend to sleep in a basement sometimes a month? That sounds a little crazy.
I like that it has become common for some parents to create a space in their house where their sons and daughters can live until they get enough money to move out. It’s a clever way to show your children support without being in their business. It is giving them independence (their own space separated from the house) without exposing them to a financial burden before they are even 21 (they still live at home). That is great to preserve your child at the same time that you teach them how to manage their finances and save enough to, eventually, move out of the family home.
In this Reddit story, this tactic is being applied perfectly. The daughters contribute to the house without actually having to spend their whole paycheck. They get a great space to live (the basement), which is part of the house but separate to give them the space and independence they need. The problem is because one of the two daughters that they have, has a boyfriend. He sometimes stays the night with her, but he has not moved in or anything like that. The daughter’s stepfather is not happy with this and tells the mom that this boy needs to start paying $350 a month for rent. The mother is not sure about this.
The mother admits that her husband has rights within their home and is fine if he doesn’t like her daughter’s boyfriend to stay so much. But she does feel like he has no right to parent her, as he’s not her biological dad. She thinks that the approach his taking with this rent charge is really strong. She believes that a more preferable approach would be to set boundaries about how much he can stay.
Personally, I think that the mother is the one with actual rights to parent her daughter, and what she thinks is best is what they shall do. But what do you think about it?Â
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Author: Kayitsi.com
