If you’re the birthday girl, you deserve to eat at the restaurant you want. It’s not your sister’s call, it’s yours. Why does this family follow what the sister says instead of the birthday girl’s wish? We don’t know.
There must be something else going on between these sisters. The sister knew exactly which restaurant the birthday woman wanted to visit, but she didn’t want to eat there just because she disliked the food. And that was reasonable enough to change the restaurant as she pleased. What is worse, she expected everyone to adapt, and left the poor aunt sitting alone waiting at the original restaurant. Who would do such a thing? Why would the family follow her instructions rather than the birthday woman’s? Birthdays are about the person being celebrated, not the organizer. The aunt’s choice should have been respected.
Birthdays are supposed to be a day when people show you love and make you feel seen. Well, this sister did exactly the opposite. I think the issue isn’t about the sister disliking Thai food. She also said that she wasn’t paying for food she dislikes, but she didn’t actually pay for the aunt’s meal, which makes her argument so absurd and selfish that it makes me think it’s not about the money either. Even her daughter called her out, but instead of apologizing, she doubled down and said she didn’t care.
If you’re organizing someone’s birthday dinner, the least you can do is let them pick the restaurant. Otherwise, you’re celebrating a dinner for yourself and calling it their birthday. You can go to the restaurant you prefer anytime you want, but on someone’s birthday, that day is supposed to be about them, not about you.




