Woman gets invited to a hike by her friends, only to discover it was not what she was told. Everyone appears with utilities and then acts as if they had explained how it was going to be: ‘They show up on bikes.’ – FAIL Blog

Sometimes you just have awful friends, ditch them!

We have this thing where we can’t admit when one of our friends isn’t the good kind. You have that friend who has shown over and over again that they treat you badly or don’t care for you, and instead of ditching them, we make excuses. When somebody tells us how they have spoken badly about us behind our backs, we say they must have misunderstood, even though inside we know they did. We feel their awful treatment towards us and do nothing. We want to avoid the confrontation, thinking it will be worse than simply talking. We prefer to be uncomfortable and sad rather than break a friendship of many years, but the truth is that the friendship ended the moment they started being mean to you. We don’t want to be the ones making the decision, but we weren’t. It was our inconsiderate friend who decided to end the friendship by treating us poorly.

In this Reddit story, we are presented with an example of an awful friend –multiple in this case– that do not care for us or our wellbeing, and for whom we make excuses even though they do not deserve it at all. Instead of admitting that they have a separate group chat where they specified what to bring to the “hike”, the user who wrote this story prefers to think that they simply forgot. Even if they did forget to mention the reality of the plan, they are bad friends for being inconsiderate and not thinking about you. Especially if they knew that this user wasn’t big in hiking. Not being mindful of your friend makes YOU a bad friend.

We should stop with the excuses and start being honest. That friend –yes, that one that you are thinking about right now– is not good for you and is not a good person. Either talk to them and explain how you feel or ditch them, but DO NOT carry a friendship just because of nostalgia.