Doing the dishes will tear us apart
I can’t believe how many romances end because of issues with housework. It seems that those differences and inconveniences end up eroding everything left of romance in the couple.
Frankly, after reading so many stories like this on Reddit, I’m kinda giving up on the idea of living together with a partner altogether. Is it possible to evolve to a society that accepts living in separate places without making it sound weird or noncommittal? Maybe it helps, and it keeps the fire burning. Maybe the other person doesn’t have to compromise preferences they would’ve never wanted to in the first place, and things flow better that way!
Maybe you are very lucky, and your housework standards align with your partner’s, and you can cohabitate just naturally; but for most of us, that is not the case. Attitudes that seem normal to you might completely disgust the other person, and imagine what that disgust can do to the fragile feeling of love over time.
For example, I live alone, and in my house, sometimes I let myself be messy because I know it won’t bother anyone else but me, but I assume if I live with somebody else sometime, and I’m having a very stressful week, I won’t be able to do that without causing some discomfort, and I honestly need the liberty sometimes.
Of course, everything is negotiable, but one should have a partner who is willing to negotiate, and more often than not, you sadly find out that your partner didn’t want to negotiate anything and expected you to be his maid.
Either way, if the ‘lazy’ partner is deflecting guilt and telling the other that it is their fault for being angry, I would consider that a major red flag. Better late than never. Is it time to try to negotiate, or should she run for the hills?
Author: Kayitsi.com
